Communication is Key

Communication

Communication (Photo credit: arli design)

Relationships are not always a cakewalk, and they can be even more difficult if the channels of communication are not in proper working order.  A good healthy dose of conflict isn’t necessarily bad or a sign that things are failing.  Conflict offers a chance for growth and learning about oneself and another. It does help, however, to be skillful with words and the approach.  Below is a helpful list of guidelines for improving your line of communication when obstacles arise within your relationships.

When sending messages:

1.  CONFRONT DIRECTLY rather than ignore, grumble, or give up.  Examples of confronting directly might be “Can I give you some feedback?” or “Can we talk?”

2.  DESCRIBE the behavior rather than attack the person.  For example, you might say…”When I saw…” or “When I heard you say…”

3.  INFORM rather than withhold.  When informing the other person, you might say “I thought it meant… or “I felt…” or “This is the situation as I see it…” or “I am concerned that…”

4.  ASK rather than assume.  For example, you might say “Did you realize that…” or “How did you see it?” or “What did you intend?”  Finding out what the other person was thinking can be a huge help for solving a problem instead of allowing your imagination to take control.  Throwing in an assumption can sometimes be the equivalent to adding more fuel to the fire.  It’s better to find out from the person what was happening from their perspective rather than decide what they were thinking on your own.

5.  MAKE SUGGESTIONS rather than whine or blame.  You might ask, “Could we try…” or “Would you be willing to…” or “I would be willing to…”

Finally, adding in a moment to REFLECT BACK to the person what you hear them saying allows the line of communication to be even clearer.  For example, once a message has been sent, you might respond with, “I heard you say….”  This strategy is my favorite because it allows you to be sure you heard the person correctly, and it gives the other person an opportunity to make sure that the message they are trying to get across is happening successfully.  Reflecting back demonstrates a sense of care and compassion, AND it helps everyone to feel like they’ve been heard.  I like to think of it as active communication that is respectful and responsible.  It does take patience and effort, but it’s well worth going that extra mile.  Try it out and see what happens!!

The Heart Knows

Confusion.  Its grip is unbearable.  I have even begged the question, “How much longer will this go on?”  And then it happens.  A moment presents itself, and like a brief break in the clouds, the shining rays of clarity peek through.  In that instant, I understand clear as day that doubt and uncertainty cannot continue.  I absolutely must not allow my fundamental darkness to win! There comes a time when one must simply decide to pick themselves up and dust themselves off.  Feeling sorry for oneself or maintaining a “woe is me” attitude never helped anyone.  Change is inevitable.  Decisiveness is key, and the heart knows.

Decisiveness

Decisiveness (Photo credit: Thomas Hawk)

In Nichiren Buddhism, it is said that our heart determines everything in our lives.  It even has the power to move the universe in the direction one desires.  Essentially, “Our hearts decide our happiness or unhappiness, fortune or misfortune” (Living Buddhism, May 2013).  If it is true that the heart knows, and you feel your state of life is unhappy or filled with misfortune–what essentially does that mean?  It can be sometimes difficult to know.  At least, that has been my experience.  During a recent reckoning with myself I thought–”Whoops, I think I made a wrong turn back there somewhere.”

At times, it seems imperative that for one to fully comprehend matters of the heart, one must become like a fish out of water.  It can be hard to describe the environment you are swimming in unless you remove yourself from it, stand back, and take a good hard look at yourself.  In the end, taking oneself out of one’s comfort zone, while difficult, can speed things along in the direction of change and growth.  In my opinion, this can be very helpful especially when you find yourself saying–”I feel stuck.”  Since your environment is a reflection of you, YOU may very well be the HEART or ROOT of the issue.  If you don’t believe me, just watch Chef Ramsey’s Kitchen Nightmares.  In every episode, the restaurant owners complain that their business is failing, but they don’t know why or they insist that someone else is to blame.  As the show progresses, most come to realize that they are the very reason for financial failure, and if they truly want their business to change then they must change too.  Therefore, taking a good hard look at yourself and what you are responsible for (a.k.a YOUR LIFE) is a crucial first step.  The heart knows.  If you find yourself unhappy, it just may be time to take a step back, stop blaming others, and begin to find those areas where you can change.  You can always choose a different path.  Of course, in the end, no one can tell you what to do.  It is your life after all, and life is all about choice.  Therein lies the beauty.  If you don’t like the direction you are going, you get to choose a different path, a new journey, and a self-transformation.  It really is all up to you!

The Key to Creating Value

Everything begins with the resolve to take the...

Everything begins with the resolve to take the first step. From that action, wisdom arises and change begins. Without action, nothing changes. -Daisaku Ikeda (Photo credit: deeplifequotes)

Last evening I sifted through the pages of my World Tribune in search for much needed encouragement.  The World Tribune is a weekly newspaper devoted to the practice of Nichiren Buddhism, the SGI organization, and world peace.  I love this newspaper because I get to read all about the amazing accomplishments my fellow Buddhist members are conducting around the United States.  Daisaku Ikeda, President of the SGI, also provides guidance and support for leading happy lives with no regrets.  In this week’s World Tribune, I came across bundles of wonderful wisdom from President Ikeda that really brightened my day about how to create value in our lives.  I’m not going to share all of it, but I will share my favorite parts that I highlighted.  By the way, what you are about to read is taken from The New Human Revolution which is a series of novels that President Ikeda has written about SGI and the kosen-rufu movement to share this practice with others for the sake of world peace.

Daisaku Ikeda writes…

“It’s important to be optimistic and to look on the bright side, constantly moving forward.  There are times when, even though you’ve been chanting [Nam-myoho-renge-kyo] for something, the situation doesn’t go as you wish.  But remember, there’s always a reason.  In the end, you will genuinely feel that things worked out for the best.”

“Buddhism is a teaching of value creation, and value creation begins with having the wisdom to appreciate every situation we face and transform it into joy, hope, and victory…Let’s imagine, for example, that it starts to snow.  If you react negatively, thinking about how cold and slippery it is outside, then you will have a terrible day.  But if instead you think to yourself: ‘What a rare chance it is to see such beautiful snow!  I’ll show the kids how to build a snowman and create a wonderful memory with them!–then from that moment everything will be a joy.”

“The key to value creation is to find joy and meaning in whatever happens, to courageously rise to the challenge.  To do that, we need a philosophy of life, we need wisdom, and we need life force.  In fact, that is the purpose of our faith.”

“Our personal philosophy determines how we look at things.  Whether we see events from a pessimistic or optimistic point of view, whether we take things positively or negatively, makes all the difference in the world.”

[Buddhism] is…”a philosophy of transforming the negative into the positive.  As long as we base ourselves on such a forward looking approach, we will never be deadlocked.”

“How we perceive events is also intimately related to the strength of our life force.  When we are weak-spirited and apathetic, we end up falling into a negative mindset in spite of our best efforts to remain positive.  Our mental attitude is inseparable from our state of life.  Chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo is the source of powerful unflagging vitality.”

This guidance is absolutely amazing.  I love it, and in my own personal experience I find that it really is true.  When it comes to how we interact with others and experience the world, if our mind is set in darkness, if we look at the world through a negative lens then what we experience will most definitely be negative.  If that negativity is taken a step further, and one reacts out of anger then we harm not only our relationships, but ourselves as well.  After all, anger is poison and it is the gateway to hatred.  It can cause you to lose control of your ability to think and act in a rational way.  The good news is that poison can be changed into medicine.  That is the power of Nam-myoho-renge-kyo!  Tapping into the power of our lives or Nam-myoho-renge-kyo provides a way to channel anger into something positive thereby creating value in society.  For example, someone who has been the victim of violence can channel their anger and energy into fighting for justice and world peace.  It really all comes down to one’s mindset.  Every human being is capable of greatness, of contributing to the world, society, and the community in a positive way.

Try it out! Pay close attention to the experience you have today and remember if the mind is shrouded in negativity then negativity becomes part of your daily life.  It becomes your experience.  However, if the mind is positive then you are able to look on the bright side and experience the joy life brings!

The Heart Is What Matters Most

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worship (Photo credit: Celestial Photography)

Question:  How might I approach activities in my daily life to benefit the greater good, including myself?

Answer:  In all things, sincerity is what matters most.

Think about it.  We live in a mundane world.  Most of what we do on a daily basis isn’t really all that interesting.  It can be boring stuff like paying bills, shopping for groceries, gassing up the car, picking up clothing from the dry cleaners–you get the picture.  There isn’t necessarily all that much joy in these activities unless we choose to experience joy while doing them.   When we approach our activities in life such as yoga, eating, showering, dressing, etc. with a sense of sincerity or true devotion, then everything in life becomes Puja or worship.  Each activity is like an offering.  The heart is what matters most.  If your heart is not in your yoga practice, your faith, your relationships, or daily life then it all has the potential to become meaningless.

I’ve learned the importance of appreciation, gratitude for all of life’s offerings even when things are not quite how I’d like them to be.  In times of personal struggle I find that I have the power to flip the coin from the negative to the positive.  When I complain about certain aspects in my life because this or that isn’t quite how I’d like it to be, I realize that I am begrudging my life.  Doing this takes me very quickly down a dark tunnel.  I realize that I have this ability to transport myself into the world of hell.  So, instead of engaging in that activity, I’ve learned that when I show appreciation and choose to experience the joy in all that is, the light in my life changes and brightens.  In a sense, I am liberating myself from the darkness and negativity.  When I focus on making others happy, without expecting anything in return, when I serve others and help them to overcome life’s obstacles, my life brightens and becomes happier in the process.  Swami Satchidananda refers to this as Karma Yoga.  He says,

“It’s all for others.  Then the entire life becomes Karma Yoga.  If you are living for the sake of everybody, serving God and His creation every minute with every breath, you are worshipping constantly.  Your work has become worship and every act is a part of that worship.  Always live for others, do for others, think of others.  Automatically your needs will be fulfilled.”  (The Living Gita)

I hear my fellow Buddhist members talk about this phenomenon from their own experience all the time.  Many people have expressed to me that their lives changed for the better once they began dedicating their practice to the happiness of others.  It is the law of cause and effect.  What goes around comes around.  The more we give, the more we receive.

Learning to Untie the Karmic Knot

Ganges River, Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India.

Ganges River, Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

This afternoon, in preparation for my next yoga training coming up in March, I was digging deep into The Living Gita:  The Complete Bhagavad Gita.  While reading the chapter on “The Yoga of Meditation” I came across a story of two boatmen.  The story goes something like this…

Two men, while out partying one evening, decide that they want to journey down the Ganges River.  They know how to row quite well, but they do not own a boat so they decide to “borrow” someone else’s.  As they venture toward the edge of the shore, they discover a new boat lapping about in the water.  With the oars in tact, they jump in and begin their late night adventure down the Ganges River singing songs as they go.  The hours pass by and soon the sun begins to rise once again.  In the crisp light of the approaching dawn, the two see familiar faces approaching the river’s edge for an early morning bath amidst familiar buildings.  They think it strange.  How could they have rowed all the night long only to find themselves in the same town they had presumably left earlier that evening?  They had traveled half the night down the river.  Inquiring from the morning bathers how this strange thing could have happened, the people begin to laugh calling them fools for as it turned out the two boatmen had forgotten to undo the knot of the rope the boat was tied to.  They had rowed all night long, but had not actually traveled anywhere.

The author who retells this story states, “We can’t attain the goal that way.  We can’t reach the shore unless bondage is removed.”  How enlightening! This simple story shed so much insight on my Buddhist faith.  There are times when practice alone, chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo isn’t enough.  I realize that if I want to move forward in my life then I have to take action, study the teachings, attend activities, increase my daimoku BIG TIME, support fellow members, AND I have to change my karma.  My karma is my bondage.  It is the knot in the rope that keeps me from reaching the next shore of happiness.  In order to realize my fullest potential for the future, I have to let go of the baggage that keeps me tied down to the past.  I have to change my karma!  This is my clear path for moving forward.

The Ten States of Life

Life is in a constant state of change.  In every moment that we breathe, some aspect of our lives may be just beginning, reaching a peak, plummeting to an all time low, or reaching an end.  This is the ebb and flow of life.  One minute you can feel like you are experiencing a slice of heaven and the next find yourself plummeting into the depths of hell.  You may wake in the morning feeling happy and rested, but then an unusual amount of traffic promises to make you late for work and suddenly your stress level rises.  No longer do you feel rested and happy.  Instead you may feel frustration or anger.  In Nichiren Buddhism, this is referred to as the ten states of life.  There are ten worlds that exist within our lives and we can experience a series of these life states throughout the day.  That is why chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo is so important.  It can transform our suffering and raise our state of life by lifting us out of the world of hell and into the world of Buddhahood.

Change Yourself

Change Yourself (Photo credit: AngSocialMed)

The following descriptions of the ten states of life are from the book The Basics of Buddhism by Pat Allwright.

1.  The world of hell:  This state of life is filled with extreme suffering and closely resembles that of a prison.  It is a world filled with misery, hopelessness, and helpless rage.  In this state of being one may feel trapped and powerless.

2.  The world of  hunger:  Have you ever felt like no matter how much you accumulated and no matter how much you accomplished, you still wanted more?  This state of life is dominated by greed.

3.  The world of animality:  In this world life is dominated by instinct.  The weak fear the strong, and the strong prey upon the weak.  Human qualities of love, compassion, and mercy are not present.

Note:  Collectively, these three worlds are referred to as the three evil paths as they are the source of great suffering.

4.  The world of anger:  The ego is the great ruler and conflict is a constant occurrence.

5.  The world of tranquillity:  This world is dominated by the human being.  A sense of humanity, peace, sound judgment, and calm state of mind is ever present.  However, since the times are so turbulent it is difficult for one to remain here for too long.  Folks quickly find themselves plummeting into one of the lower states already mentioned above.

6.  The world of rapture: This is a slice of heaven spurred on oftentimes by an achieved desire, physical gratification, or creativity.  This experience is short-lived once the euphoria of achievement falls away.

7.  The world of learning:  Here one has an open mind and seeks a deeper, more meaningful way of life.  Learning from others is a primary focus.

8.  The world of absorption:  This is also a learning state of life.  However, the focus is attuned to gaining wisdom and experiencing growth through introspection and intuition.  Essentially, it is learning from one’s own life.

9.  The world of bodhisattva:  One is devoted to caring and helping others.  Through this state of life, one can perfect their life by developing compassion, taking action, and overcoming selfishness.  Personal development focuses on the greater self of reason, compassion, wisdom, courage, and conscience.  Here, one can tap into the creative life force and experience great joy by dedicating one’s life to helping others overcome personal struggles.

10.  The world of Buddhahood:  This is a state of enlightenment traditionally thought to be superhuman and experienced only by a single person, the Buddha.  However, Buddhahood is a state of being that exists in all of us.  It is our potential as human beings to overcome suffering and experience true happiness through compassion, wisdom, and service to others.  “The essential nature of the universe is compassion, so that in Buddhahood one’s main concern is to save all life from suffering” pg.27.

In reference to the life state of hell and the world of Buddhahood, Nichiren Daishonin states:

“First of all, as to the question of where exactly hell and the Buddha exist, one sutra states that hell exists underground, and another sutra says that the Buddha is in the west.  Closer examination, however, reveals that both exist in our five-foot body.  This must be true because hell is in the heart of a person who inwardly despises his father and disregards his mother.  It is like the lotus seed, which contains both blossom and fruit.  In the same way, the Buddha dwells within our hearts”

The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali

The-Yoga-Sutras-of-PatanjaliA moment before I picked up this book, I was suffering.  Not surprisingly, I was the cause of my own suffering.  True to form, my mind had taken over.  Sitting in the airport watching people passing by, I posed thoughtful questions such as “I wonder what it would be like to walk in her shoes?” figuratively and literally as I witnessed one woman fall down while walking to her next gate of departure- the result of choosing platform boots and spiky stiletto heels so high that safe mobility was clearly an issue.  Enough with focusing on each passerby that caught my eye, it was time to focus on my own life, one which I avoided with all its grumpiness.  As I initiated this action with the lifting of my arm and the movement of my hand to unhook and unzip, I had a thought.  What was the likelihood that this book would provide solace to my woes, comfort to my mind, and guidance in my search for that lasting inward smile.  I reached into my backpack and pulled out The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali.  I flipped through the first few pages and began to read.  Immediately, I connected to the words in the second sutra that says “The restraint of the modifications of the mind-stuff is Yoga.”  Suddenly, something shifted in my bones and the core of my very being.  The words of Sri Swami Satchidananda in this teaching reached up and out from the page.  “The entire outside world is based on your thoughts and mental attitude.  The entire world is your own projection.  Your values may change within a fraction of a second.  Today you may not even want to see the one who was your sweet honey yesterday.  If we remember that, we won’t put so much stress on outward things.”  Lately, I felt unhappy in my relationship and I quickly placed blame on the other.  I felt stuck and confined to a small space.  A feeling of liberation escaped me.  Hadn’t I been here before?  My karma reared its ugly head.  The person and place had changed, but the feeling was the same.  Swami Satchidananda continues with a Sanskrit saying, “As the mind, so the person; bondage or liberation is in your own mind.”  He says, “If you feel bound, you are bound.  If you feel liberated, you are liberated.  Things outside neither bind nor liberate you; only your attitude toward them does that.”  Clearly, what I needed was an attitude change.

“At other times [the Self appears to] assume the forms of the mental modifications.”  This is sutra number four.  Here Swami Satchidananda teaches that we are all one and the same.  Separation begins within the mind when one identifies with some aspect of themselves.  However, if we could let go of these identifications, we can reconnect with the pure “I”.  Swami Satchidananda teaches that on the outside we all appear different.  However, behind these changing differences is the One which never changes, but remains the same.  It is this One that unifies us all.  The One only appears to change due to the modifications of the mind.  All that appears wrong in the outside world is actually the result of the mind.  It is our perception and way of thinking about someone or something that creates harmony or strife.  Swami Satchidananda states, “By correcting our vision, we correct things outside…however much we scrub the outside things, we are not going to make them white or blue or green; they will always be yellow.  In Nichiren Buddhism, this correcting of one’s vision is referred to as polishing your mirror or performing your human revolution.  It is the power of Nam-myoho-renge-kyo to change your life.  When we work to improve ourselves and become better people, the world then becomes a better place too.  It is as Gandhi said, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”

This book is thought provoking and full of wisdom.  I highly recommend it!

Step Into 2013

dreams and wishes. 62/365

dreams and wishes. 62/365 (Photo credit: nicole.pierce.photography ♥)

“Rebirth” (My 2013 Celebration Haiku)

A new year begins.

Your hope filled future renews.

Dreams delight the mind.

Happy New Year’s Day to you!!  To ring in this special occasion, I have two quotes to share with you.  Both are quotes by Nichiren himself.

This first one is from his book of writings.  It was written to the wife of Omosu on January 5.  The year is unknown.

“I have received a hundred slabs of steamed rice cake and a basket of fruit.  New Year’s Day marks the first day, the first month, the beginning of the year, and the start of spring.  A person who celebrates this day will accumulate virtue and be loved by all, just as the moon becomes full gradually, moving from west to east, and as the sun shines more brightly, traveling from east to west.”

The next one is a favorite of mine…..

“If the minds of living beings are impure, their land is also impure, but if their minds are pure, so is their land.  There are not two lands, pure or impure in themselves.  The difference lies solely in the good or evil of our minds.  It is the same with a Buddha and an ordinary being.  While deluded, one is called an ordinary being, but when enlightened, one is called a Buddha.  This is similar to a tarnished mirror that will shine like a jewel when polished.”

Control the mind.  Otherwise, the mind will control you.  Everything around us is in constant flux.  It is for that reason–we must travel inward, focus on our spirit, and create happiness there.   True happiness comes from within.

Nam-myoho-renge-kyo!!!!

and…..

Happy New Year, everybody!!!

May 2013 bring you happiness and well-being:-)  Peace.

Be Yourself

Fifth Grade

Fifth Grade (Photo credit: Bunches and Bits {Karina})

Yesterday, I became overwhelmed with excitement after receiving an e-mail from an assistant principal at a charter school in the bay area.  A 4th and 5th grade math and science position was opening up at the school and they were looking for a teacher with experience in those two subject areas.  I taught 6th grade math and science for two years.  I couldn’t help but feel that this could be a “shoe-in” opportunity knocking at my door.  The e-mail asked me to forward my resume and three letters of recommendation as soon as possible.  We would go from there.  Following the request, I reviewed and updated my resume.  I responded to her e-mail and attached the necessary documents.  Then, about ten minutes later I received another e-mail from her.  She wanted to know if I had experience in technology and engineering?  I admit I was somewhat shocked that engineering would be required for teaching 4th and 5th grade science.  Most folks I know with an engineering background or degree have an engineering career and job.  I started to rack my brain with ideas of what I could say in response that would put me in a good light and build her confidence in my abilities.  The school that I taught at last year had an afterschool engineering robotics program the first year I was there, but when the new administration took over, the program fell to the wayside.  I was never trained as planned.  So, I couldn’t beef myself up using that information.  My brain performed all types of twists and turns, but continuously I came up short.  Truth be told, I really didn’t have that much experience in the two areas required.  So, I responded the only way I could….with the truth.  My message said:

Dear _______,

Unfortunately, my experience in those two areas is limited.
However, I can say with confidence that I am eager to learn and I do learn quickly.  I am hard working, great with preparations, and willing to do whatever it takes.  For example, I would be willing to pay for training out of pocket if needed.  In addition, my fiance is a mechanical engineer and able to be my resource as I learn the new material.  This may not be the answer you are looking for, but I can assure you that I am very dedicated.  I hope this helps.
Sincerely,
Heather
I never heard back from said assistant principal.  But, I was proud of my answer.  In the beginning, I did what I think many people may do.  I hammered away at myself with negative comments that most likely would be considered verbal abuse.  “You’re not good enough!”  “Great job on choosing the wrong degree!”  And so on and so forth.  You get the idea.  We all are guilty of beating ourselves up when something doesn’t seem to work out in our favor or when we feel we just don’t measure up.  Following the e-mails and disappointment, I moved on to my Buddhist practice and morning prayers.  At the end, I opened up the encouragement book I read daily.  It’s set up like a calendar, so you read the encouragement given for that particular day.  I couldn’t believe it.  The piece of advice for that particular day read as follows…
“Don’t put on airs.  Conceit and pretense don’t win people’s hearts; the facade soon crumbles.  Be yourself.  Buddhism teaches we can shine most brilliantly through natural, unaffected behavior.  Being sincere, dedicated and honest is the key.  People of integrity triumph in the end.”
For this job, I didn’t meet the requirements.  But I was able to release that part of my day with a feeling of pride in myself and a strong sense of integrity.  And that made a HUGE difference in the way I felt about me. :-)
Have a wonderful weekend everyone!

The Power In You

Mahatma Gandhi with textile workers at Darwen,...Recently, I started an intensive yoga teacher training.  Regarding my decision to change careers, I decided that yoga would be the beginning of this journey.  I chose Kripalu because the focus is reconnecting with your body and spirit.  It is a spiritual journey of sorts towards cultivating a healthier body, mind, and way of being.  Rekindling one’s relationship with prana or the breath sets the stage, and from there a transformation is initiated as the body and mind begin to heal from anxieties, fears, and a separation from ourselves. Slowly, through the asanas, these emotions are replaced with confidence, a sense of strength, and reconnection.  The heart opens and expands.  The point of Kripalu is meditation in movement, awakening one’s life force, and cultivating peace within oneself.  Over time, one’s practice on the mat can become one’s practice in daily life.  As a person transforms themselves, the environment around them responds to this change and transforms as well.  In Nichiren Buddhism, this is often called a human revolution.  Many of the yoga sutras teach that when you are happy, it affects everyone in your environment.  If you are angry or are having angry thoughts, that anger is generated out into your environment as well.  In Nichiren Buddhism, a great deal of discussion surrounds the “mystic function of the mind.”  Our attitude changes everything.  This statement is used quite often.  Kids hear it all the time in school, but it can be difficult to believe or put into practice especially when you are suffering or are facing serious obstacles in life.  But the power of thought to alter reality must never be underestimated.  If you believe you can, then you will.  Regarding this topic, Nichiren said “This mind that is beyond comprehension constitutes the core teaching of the sutras and treatises.  And one who is awake to and understands this mind is called a Thus Come One.”  The Thus Come One refers to each individual’s inherent Buddha nature or one who has awakened to the powerful and mystical workings of the mind.  There is a saying that at this moment in time ”You are now all that you desire to be.”  Our minds determine our future both individually and collectively as a society.  Daisaku Ikeda devotes a chapter to this idea in My Dear Friends In America.  In it he refers to Mahatma Gandhi who believed and once said that people became whoever they expected themselves to be.  Daisaku writes: “The potential of the human brain remains an unknown.  We do not know what powers it holds.  But one thing is certain: The power of belief, the power of thought, will move reality in the direction of what we believe and how we conceive it.  If you really believe you can do something, you can.  That is a fact.”  To give a simple example of how this can play out I will share with you a small thing that I experienced at the end of my first week of yoga teacher training.  In the evening of that last day, I stopped by my friend’s house to say hello.  I had not seen her in months and was excited to catch up.  When I arrived the first thing she offered me was something to drink.  I immediately responded that I would love a cup of tea.  She then asked me, ”Is mint okay?”.  My first thought was that I really wanted ginger.  I felt this strongly, but I didn’t want to be a picky guest, and I figured that if she had other selections she would have offered them.  I said that mint would be lovely, and she pulled the box of mint tea out of the cabinet.  The water soon came to a boil, and I heard the clanging of cups and the tearing of a small paper package.  Within minutes, the cup of tea was set into my hands, warming my fingers, and I quickly took that first delicious sip.  To my pleasant surprise, the taste of ginger delighted my taste buds.  A little confused at first, I asked her what kind of tea she gave me.  She replied mint of course.  I responded that it couldn’t be.  There was no mint in my cup of tea.  Without a doubt, I was drinking ginger tea.  She replied, “You know, now that I think about it, I think I had some random leftover tea selections from other boxes that I put in that box of mint to consolidate.  I completely forgot about that.  I must have accidentally opened one of those.”  Some folks may say that this experience was plain old luck or just a mere coincidence.  But for me, this was a wonderful confirmation of the power we hold and the mystical workings of the mind.  Our thoughts, beliefs, and desires become our reality and lived experience.

At the end of the first day of my yoga training, I wrote in my journal: “I know peace is possible.  I know deep relaxation is possible.  I know these things because I just experienced them both.”

If what you seek is peace from the negativity in life, try out a Kripalu yoga class or tap into the Nam-myoho-renge-kyo in your life.  I highly recommend a good dose of both.  Take some time to reconnect with the mind.  Be a witness to it.  Check the patterns and quality of the thoughts that come and go.  Change the script, and create the life you want to live.  The power is within you and anything is possible.

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